Baby Shower Dilemma [VENT] but need help!

[Beautiful Disaster]

Im with everyone else. Stuff her.

Im going through EXACTLY the same thing although mine is the day after my wedding so they will all be here already. Atleast this way they dont have to come back lol

Do what you want!!!

[~ Zarava Flutterby ~]

I think it depends, how long has the overseas holiday been booked for, was it before you were PG because if it was then i don't think it's all that fair to be angry at her.
DP's mum booked a cruise right as i found out i was PG, we called her and told her that i would be due the week before she was meant to leave and gave her the option of canceling... she didn't as we never expected me to go over and if i did she agreed it would be her loss but she was only going for a week.

Is there a particular reason you wont change to a sunday?

I can completely see where your coming from and it's up to you when you have it but personally i would be telling her thats when your planning on having it and see what she says, explain WHY you want it then and that you don't want it too close to your due date but i think it's only fair to mention it to her... even if it is to say i've set a date for the baby shower, are you still in Aus then???

[KristyG]

Thats all really good points Zarava....
She has only booked the holiday in the last month (and to be honest, I've only just clicked now, though we knew she was going last week) and I've definately been pregnant longer than the last month. lol

I actually felt terrible because my own mum had planned to go overseas in April (which i didnt know about) when we fell pregnant so now she has put it off until May/June which she is fine with.

I could change to a Sunday but I dont really want to if I can avoid it. Sunday's are traditionally for me the "getting ready to go back to work/school day" I dont like to do many things on Sunday as I like to do all the house cleaning etc and relax before the working week starts again. So I'd rather do it on the Sat so that I can have Sunday to rest before going back to work (as i'll still be working at that point).

Tara - Yeah her daughters were like that and didnt have one, but she had asked me at the start of the pg if we'd have one, and I said that we would and I even told her the things I was avoiding buying as we'd probably get them at the shower etc...


I know that its probably just one of those cases of "just didnt realise or she didnt click or think" like I didnt realise or click until just now. I guess its just everything else thats been going on with them that's built up on top of it. I think she would make a huge show and dance about being so upset about not being able to make it, which would cause the rest of the family to be angry.

I might just say "this is when we are having it" and see how much drama it does create. If they decided to just be like "oh well" then I wont have to change it but if they create enough of a drama then I might consider changing it.

But your's are right, Im never going to be able to please everyone.

[Melbournemumma]

Ok, just as another thought, maybe she didn't think you'd have one. I know they weren't the done thing when my Mum had us and my mil wasn't expecting that I would have one cause her daughter and other daughter in law didn't have one and she'd never been to one. So she didn't even know what to expect.

However, if you really can't change the date then I'm sure she'll get over it. And if she definately knew you were planning one then yeah, don't change it.